I think I’ve said this at every new stage in the girls’ lives, but I really think this age has to be my favorite (16 months). They are so much fun! They are role playing (kitchen, pushing baby in a stroller, etc), they are much more playful, and they are really starting to communicate with us. They are tiny humans. It’s still so strange to me.
They are starting to say a lot of words: dog, woof, more, all done, yeah, no, mommy, daddy, baby, shoes, car, etc. It won’t be long until they are stringing words together. Then forming short sentences. And what comes next? Asking questions. This is exciting. I love talking to my daughters and seeing that they can understand me. But I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how the way I answer certain questions as a parent will shape the way my children think. What a responsibility!
I’m sure the questions will start as light-hearted and silly, but it won’t be long until they are asking real questions. Time flies, you know?
I’ve been reading a book lately called, Answering Your Kids’ Toughest Questions by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson. Each chapter walks you through a difficult topic: sin, death, satan, hell, divorce, sexual sin, natural disasters, fighting, murder, difficult Bible stories, and ends with the good news that should be shared with your children.
Before going into detail about how to talk to your children, Fitzpatrick and Thompson discuss what the Bible says about each of these topics. I appreciate that they look to scripture to define these subjects and I find it comforting that God’s Word has a lot to say in regards to these hard topics! At the conclusion of each chapter, the authors include a guide for how to talk to your children in an age-appropriate manner. It’s broken down by age: Preschool, ages 5-10, and ages 11 and up. Even though it is modified by age, the content is rich and doesn’t shy away from the truth.
Being a parent has been one of the most rewarding and the most challenging things I have ever done. And while many days I pride myself on keeping two tiny humans alive, there is so much more work to be done. As parents (and Christians) we are commanded to be constantly reading and applying God’s Word. We are commanded to teach them to our children. The more we study what God’s Word says the more equipped we will be when difficult questions come and the more we can point our children to Jesus. I will never have all of the answers, and that’s okay. My daughters’ lives are in God’s hands. So I need not stress. I simply have to strive to do as Deuteronomy 11:18-19 says:
You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
I believe this book will be a great guide for parents as they try to answer their kids questions. It is set up in such a way that you don’t necessarily need to read it from cover to cover. It would be easy to pick it up when questions come and flip to any chapter you need. I know I will be referencing this book again in the (very near) future.
*I received this book for free from Bethany House in exchange for writing an honest review.